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別把最糟的脾氣留給最愛你的人

我是瓏朧,我的媽媽名玲鳳,她肯定不知道她是我最景仰的女性,

我跟大眾一樣青少年期做了許多叛逆之事,也因為玲鳳給了我許多的愛與寬容所以我仍生活在這個家庭裡,在這裡不稱為她媽媽是因為本篇想尊重她個人在我心中的多元身分,一個母親、多年好友、智者、導師,一位願意與時共進,花時間了解我們思維,跳框她出身的傳統框架來與我們溝通,玲鳳出身於漁農家庭,環境不富裕身為老大的她家庭總共有六個兄弟姊妹,從小一間扛起許多事物幫助家庭經濟,結婚的早嫁給看似富裕的畜牧家庭卻不巧遇上口蹄疫,又背負起許多債務,但我與弟妹卻並沒有像多數人般背負助學貸款,只因為玲鳳不願意剝奪我們的成長期權利,她總是默默的付出很少發脾氣,甚少情緒勒索道德綁架子女,總是有智慧的舉例換位思考是這讓家庭成員可以理解她的想法,人都有情緒做到這點非常不容易,印象深刻是,她常說:「我們這一生只來一次剛好當成家人,不該把最糟的脾氣留給最愛你的人,因為愛不是理所當然,愛是互相,我們要當彼此的後盾。」

早期傳統時代下壓抑女性的辛苦故事就不多贅述!

玲鳳的話在我心中,陪伴著我成長,她在艱辛的時代成長卻有著最強壯的溫柔,她的話在我人生不同的經歷下,每次咀嚼都有新的體會,也讓我堅強的面對許多事情,想把這句話送給大家,這裡也希望繼續與玲鳳共同成長,彼此都成為心中所期望的人!

Monica 張瓏朧 – On Instagram

Monica and her Mom
張瓏朧和她的媽媽。- Monica and her Mom

Don’t Give your Worst Temper to the One Who Loves you Most

I am Longlong, and my mother’s name is Lingfeng. She must not know that she is the woman I admire the most.

Like everyone else, I did a lot of rebellious things during my teenage years, and because Lingfeng gave me a lot of love and tolerance, I still live in this family. I won’t call her mother here because this article wants to respect her personal role. The multiple identities in my heart include a mother, a long-time friend, a wise man, and a mentor. She is willing to move with the times, take the time to understand our thinking, and communicate with us outside the traditional framework of her origin. Lingfeng was born in a family of fishermen and farmers. As the eldest daughter of a family with six brothers and sisters in a poor environment, she had to shoulder a lot of tasks from a young age to help with the family’s finances.

She married early into a seemingly wealthy livestock herding family, but unfortunately she encountered the foot-and-mouth disease and was saddled with a lot of debt. But my siblings and I did not have to bear student loans like most people. This is because Lingfeng was not willing to deprive us of our rights during the growth period. She always paid silently and rarely lost her temper. She rarely emotionally blackmailed or kidnapped her children. Wise examples and empathy allow family members to understand her thoughts. It is not easy to do this because everyone has emotions. What impressed me most is that she often said: “We only come together once in this life to become a family. You should save your worst temper for the person who loves you the most, because love is not a matter of course, love is mutual, and we must be each other’s backing.”

I won’t go into details about the hard stories that suppressed women in the early traditional era!

Lingfeng’s words are in my heart and accompany me as I grow up. She grew up in difficult times but has the strongest tenderness. Her words have gained new understanding every time I chew on them through different experiences in my life, and they have also given me a strong face. Regarding many things, I want to give this sentence to everyone. I also hope that I can continue to grow with Lingfeng, and both of us can become the people we want in our hearts!

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